3 Lessons I’ve Learned in 3 Years of Marriage

A few months ago, my husband and I celebrated three years of marriage. It’s kind of crazy how fast it has flown by, but they say that time flies when you’re having fun. In those three years, I have learned a lot about myself and my husband. I wanted to share a few lessons that I have learned along the way that may encourage you.

Marriage is a lot of work, but it is so beautiful and rewarding at the same time. There’s nothing like having a permanent partner that you can not only do life with, but serve Christ with also. So here are a few things I’ve learned along the way in 3 years of marriage.

I am a really selfish person.

Yes, you read that right. I didn’t have the slightest clue how selfish I truly was until I got married. God is constantly working on me, but man am I thankful for a gracious and patient husband. Ya’ll there are days I am just the literal worst human on the planet, but my sweet husband God bless him, is truly a saint. He forgives me when I am selfish and still shows grace and love when I don’t deserve it. He is a wonderful example Jesus to me in every possible way, even if I don’t see it most days. This is one of the hardest lessons I’ve learned.

Communication is vital, but hard.

It’s common knowledge that communication is key in any relationship, but what isn’t talked about much is how hard it is. I’ve learned that my husband in fact doesn’t have mind reading super powers, ha. Another one of the hard lessons I’ve learned. Both of us have to communicate our thoughts and feelings to each other even if it’s hard or uncomfortable. I am daily learning how to say things (and how not to say them). Sometimes it feels like we speak different languages and can get frustrating, but it’s a learning process that takes time.

Your spouse has your best interest in mind.

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned, is that my spouse has my best interest in mind. No matter what it is, there will be times where you feel your spouse doesn’t have your best interest in mind. This has happened to me on several occasions, but after a while, I realize that my husband was just trying to help and cared about me. Sometimes there’s a breakdown in communication and things get really frustrating. Once the smoke clears, there’s a realization that your spouse isn’t actually out to hurt you. Rather, they’re trying to help you in the best way they know how.

These lessons I’ve learned and am still learning are hard, but that’s part of what makes marriage beautiful. It’s wonderful having my husband walk alongside me through the learning and growth. We will never be finished learning, but I’m thankful that God isn’t finished with me yet.

Marriage also teaches you a lot about the gospel. While it has its growing pains and the process is hard, it truly is beautiful. I’m thankful to be on this journey with my husband though, and pray we always continue to grow. Closer to Christ, but also closer to each other in the process.